thoughts on cancer and libra ??

im a cancer sun, cancer moon, cancer mercury woman. i have found libra suns flock to me left and right. i have had so many girl libra best friends previously, just to have them backstab me, usually due to their need to be people pleasers. i’ve always seen them as fake and the type to play devil’s advocate and as a cancer i want loyalty or nothing. currently , i have been on and off with a libra sun leo moon libra rising man for four years. its been a push and pull battle. i tell him he’s not the man i need him to be, he changes some small aspect about his life, but its never enough, i cut him off, repeat. so after about eight months no contact he calls me and says things really have changed. he’s out the party lifestyle, away from the girls involved, etc. they know how to wrap me in so i fall back in. i tell him i don’t really see any fundamental changes besides he’s not clubbing every night. it almost feels like he’ll do anything to wrap me back in and then doesn’t know what to do once he actually has me??? we live an hour from each other and only see each other on the weekends, he’s supposed to be moving down to my city in two months. im really nervous because we’ve been “long distance” for the last few years. our personalities mesh very well but when they don’t the differences are striking. he’s level headed which is good for me, but it’s almost frustrating for me at the same time because we have so much history and i can’t understand why it took him SO long to become “the right man” for me??

does anyone else have a confusing dynamic with libra’s. sometimes i just don’t know if we’re ever on the same page and i know he feels it too. i communicate as much as i can and would love to make it work, but will it always be this confusing?