is this abuse?? I really really need someone to help clarify

I don't know how old I was, probably like mid teenager or younger, I think I was like 12??, I would sleep in my mums bed after I had stopped going to my dad's, he abused me horribly and I couldn't sleep without nightmares and panic, I would scratch and claw at my skin because of the nightmares and I guess my mum thought I had something wrong with my genitals and would 'check' me. she said she would get a flashlight on her phone and would look, won't be specific. I just don't know if it was out of genuine concern for my safety and like checking for rashes and worms and stuff but I was asleep and she told me so like? it felt violating, especially after having experienced so much abuse. for a really long time and kinda still now, I tuck my shirt into my pj's to make myself feel safer when I sleep in the same bed as someone. on top of that there's like looking thru my phone, pretending to be me and messaging my bfs when I was younger. I don't think she did it for sexual gratification but more control and power?? she listens to me when I'm doing private things so she can get mad about what happens in her house even tho I'm old enough to do whatever and I pay rent to her

sorry for bad formatting, I'm not doing good rn and trying to get it all out before I break