Loss of interest from partner after kids

Hi, I’m M3, my girlfriend (F 31) and I together have two kids, 2 and 5. It’s been 10 years since I lived with my GF. And as time goes on, I’m feeling less and less love from her. We almost never have arguments (like once a year), so we live together fine, we have the same vision in how to educate our children.

But when it comes to the couple, it’s like I’m in a child care facility with a coworker. Every day we are just raising children. I love her, I tell her almost every day and give her little love attention but I get nothing back. Sometimes I hear a little « love you too » when I tell her but she never comes forward herself to kiss or hug or any other lovers attention.

I tell her like once or twice a month that I don’t feel any love from her but her answer is always « I love you, I just don’t give much attention ». But the first five years before having the first child, I remember it felt like a normal relationship that we would be giving each other some love attention.

I know she’s never been crazy in love to the point of always kissing and touching, hugging each other but now it’s just almost never from her. And the few times it now happens in a year it takes me by surprise like I feel there’s hope it comes back like before, but that feeling disappears quickly.

Finally I’m not going to go deep into the subject but in bed since having a child it has become very boring from her. If I don’t initiate anything we can go very long time with nothing. I’ve tested it.

So finally, are my expectations too high? Like am I just in a normal couple situation with kids and should just live with it? Sometimes I’m asking myself if I’m not doing enough with the children and she’s just exhausted? (We both work and in the morning I’m the one dealing with the kids and after work she takes care of it since I finish my day when the kids go to bed).

My gut feeling is not good about the future and I am starting to prepare myself that it may just be the end of it. I still love her and have huge respect for her being the mother of our children but I feel I deserve more?

I’d like to read your thoughts on this !