I used to think open relationship is right. Now I changed my mind.

I used to think there is nothing wrong with open relationship. we get to meet new people and explore what's wrong ? it's liberating. But then one thought changed everything.

If someone or you put efforts, time, energy and emotions in someone and then that person says i will treat everyone equally. how will you feel ?

then why did I put all these efforts for ? there will be resentment. It will be unfair.

some people argue we can put efforts in everyone. but not everyone will reciprocate that efforts. and also we have limited time and energy to put efforts.open relationship is sure short way to exhaustion in that way.

and then there is issue of perfection. no relationship or person can be perfect. you need to commit and go through storms together with this imperfections. that's why commitment is important.

and then there is issue of sexualization. reducing human beings and people to just sex. is not so wholesome. I am not saying sex is not important. but sacrificing all other lovely emotions and social experience just to indulge in one emotion is so big of a cost.

and also indulgence in sex. that ignores the point on bonding and with your partner if you just look at then like a toy to be enjoyed. I am not saying lust is wrong. I am saying only just lust and ignoring Complexity of human emotion is wrong.

so in conclusion human relationships is compelx reducing it to just one emotions is not liberation but a trap.

I think reason of this is movie and media. media is always based on particular genre or group of genre. but live is not just 1 genre it complex. ignoring that complexity is rejecting life itself.