Help! Hookups aren’t enjoyable

I hooked up with a man recently and it ended up being a subpar experience. And I know that is going to be the case a lot but I’ve never had a less than amazing experience when I masturbate. And maybe only like two hookups that I really enjoyed. It’s not that I’m not horny enough, my sex drive is through the roof. It’s not that I’m just taking anyone, I only sleep with guys who have the same kinks/fetishes that I do. It’s not that I haven’t been a sissy long enough, I’ve done this for almost 8 years. And I don’t want to be a gooner or camslut, I want to be free use married to a man and fully fem for the rest of my life locked in a cage and everything. I’m wondering if there’s any advice or tricks you guys might have because I don’t want to purge or anything but my hookup experiences are making me want to be a sissy less and less each time and that’s no fun…