AITA for ‘not taking care of my hair’?

My mom (47F) was telling me how I should get a trim while we were on the ride back home, I (16NB) said no because I thought I could just do it myself (Yes I cut my own hair)

She then started to tell me how other girls have their curly hair “clean and kept” while pointing to some girl that had 3C hair that was kept while also telling me that I don’t even brush my hair, but just put it in a hair tie if she tells me to brush them

Quick thing, I have wavy (2b I believe?) hair that gets more messy and frizzy when brushed, which is why I brush them before I shower. And I do not own any products that are fit for my hair type.

I told her about that, but a little over 20 seconds, she started to cry and said that how me and my dad don’t even listen to her and cried about how we didn’t need her (no one said anything about that until she brought it up)

And said that if she died, then I’ll realise how right she was.

I don’t even know how it escalated from her telling me that I should brush my hair to her crying about how nobody needed her.

So am I the asshole?