Nag DM Ex ng BF sakanya to Insult Me

Problem/Goal:

I (18F) want advice on how to deal with ongoing anonymous harassment from my boyfriend’s (19M) ex (19F) without escalating the situation, even though I’m honestly tempted to stoop to her level and fight back.

Context:

I (18F) have been with my boyfriend (19M) for about 4 months now (we started dating in November 2025), and we’ve known each other since around September 2025. Before me, he was in a 10-month relationship with his ex (19F) from April 2024 to February 2025.

Early on, napansin ko na his ex was viewing my TikTok profile, and I recognized her because my boyfriend and I had shared access sa social media accounts namin and nakita ko siya sa block list niya. He already told me before na after their breakup in February 2025, she contacted him multiple times like around March 2025, she messaged him saying he’ll never find someone better than her and that her new boyfriend is better. Then around September 2025, about a week after we met, she messaged again through a fake anonymous account saying “I know you miss me.”

Since then, she keeps making new anonymous Instagram and TikTok accounts para i-stalk kaming dalawa, kahit ilang beses na namin siyang i-block. I even tried messaging one of the accounts calmly, asking her to stop and mag-focus na lang sa sarili niyang relationship since may boyfriend na rin siya.

Recently, things escalated. Noong Saturday an anonymous account messaged my boyfriend, insulting both of us calling me and my family ugly and saying he “downgraded.” My boyfriend responded by defending me and asking her to stop and move on. After a few days, Tuesday, nag-message ulit yung account with more insults and aggressive comments. At this point, it feels very obsessive, especially since it’s been over a year since their breakup and she already has a new boyfriend.

Previous Attempts:

We’ve been consistently blocking every account she makes, and I tried addressing her calmly once by asking her to stop and focus on her own relationship. My boyfriend has also directly told her to leave us alone and move on. Despite this, the behavior keeps continuing and is now escalating into direct insults.

Honestly, super frustrated and galit na ako because nothing seems to be working. Part of me really wants to be petty na rin and insult her back the same way she’s been insulting me like stoop down to her level because it’s so tempting but I’m worried it might just make everything worse.

What are the most effective ways to handle this kind of repeated anonymous harassment and actually make it stop without adding more fuel to the situation?

--- Word for word copy pasted messages between the random acc at yung bf ko:

Saturday

random acc: you dont look good together. i feel bad that you have downgraded.

(after a few hours)

random acc: her whole family is ugly. i saw. amazing

my boyfriend: I understand your hatred for me and the person I used to be. I will never justify my actions and my mistakes in that relationship. I am not the person I used to I’ve grown and evolved from that person. I don’t understand why you’ve been stalking us and or dm me to say her family is ugly or say I downgrade. Which I didn’t. You have a whole new boyfriend and whole new life this hatred isn’t solving anything. I apologized for my actions a year ago. You’ve taken this too far. Please just leave me and her alone. Stop disrespecting the woman I love. Please just move on.

Tuesday

random acc: i know her family hates you. i hope your family hates her. come see me when you break up. i know youre only good for a year