Chore advice
I’ve been a child development specialist for over a decade and I’ve done it ALL in terms of child care.
My past nanny jobs were good and I really like the current family I work for but I’m having a hard time feeling like my job has real meaning somedays.
I originally started working for a SAHM to be a one on one with a single child as well as helping fill the gaps with other kids and postpartum care- VERY up my alley. Over time I’ve become much less of a one on one ( the child needs less help)or even a nanny and more so the person that picks up the slack.
A lot of the child care is done by mom unless it’s has to do with my one on one. Advice I give as a specialist for the most part is rarely acted upon and seen more as a suggestion rather than researched methods. Most of my time is spent cleaning- house chores, all dishes, laundry, sweeping, vacuuming, picking up toys, odd jobs, trash, sometimes even getting in the way of doing things with the kids like play. The only time I get to do real full on childcare is when mom goes out. Other than this it’s a lot of supervision vs. care.
Some chores I understand! Mom is unable to do many chores due to pregnancy, but it does feel really demeaning in a way to have gone from a specialist to a helper if that makes sense? Especially when they’re given to me in a list.
I work full time making about 4k a month and I know a lot of that time is because I’m doing chores, and I’m really grateful to be working full time! but I can’t help but feel like I’m not using any of my skills and I’m rather losing them.
How do I professionally but kindly fix this? I love the family and want to stay with them but I also want to be treated like the professional I am.
Is this worth going over in my contract renewal and if so how do I go about it? Do I make enough money to where I should just work through this feeling on my own without talking to the family?
Thank you for any advice I really appreciate it!!
Posted Apr 1, 2026, 8:24 PM UTC