AITAH for listening to bad bunny?

Not the A-hole

My boyfriend (M, 37) and I (F, 36), together 1.5 years, were on a road trip and listened to Bad Bunny for around 3-4 hours. I'd gotten really into him after the Benito Bowl. When we were about to start our ride home, he asked in a friendly tone, "enough Bad Bunny, can we listen to something else now?" I immediately switched, no problem. I should add that I have no strong feelings about what we listen to in the car and always switch when asked. Shortly after, at a bar with friends, he told a funny story about our road trip and said to a friend in front of me: "don't get me wrong, I love Bad Bunny, just not for 8 hours!" Tone was amused, like telling a fun anecdote. (He said 8 hours, but this cannot have been right--I calculated it. I think he just said it for hyperbole, which is fine.) One month passed. We were in the car again and I put Bad Bunny on, not thinking much of it. We listened to maybe 30-40 min total. At the end, he aggressively turned off the music and said "that's it." Obviously really annoyed. This spiraled into a big fight. He felt I should have known not to play it again at all, because that he asked me to switch music the first time around was a "clear sign that he doesn't want to listen to it any more". I disagreed for several reasons: (1) his original request wasn't delivered as annoyance, but a preference (2) insofar as it was annoyance, it was about many hours of listening, (3) a month had passed, (4) he literally told his friend he loves Bad Bunny, just not for long periods, so I acted on the most recent explicit information I had, and (5) if he didn't want it, why not just ask me to switch? I have never once resisted changing the music. He thinks it was completely obvious he was really annoyed the first time, and that if I cared about his feelings I would have picked up on this. He called me "robotic" for not reading his signals, and said the fact that I can't see I was wrong now proves more I don't care about his feelings. AITAH for not knowing that he didn't want to listen to more Bad Bunny the second time around?

Posted Apr 1, 2026, 8:25 PM UTC

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