what do you wish you did differently as a new parent?

this one is a bit hard to admit, but i think i spent too much time worrying about doing everything “right”

i read everything, followed schedules, tracked things, compared what we were doing to what other people were doing

and i don’t think any of that actually made me a better parent

if anything, it made me more anxious

with my second, i was a lot more relaxed. not careless, just less… rigid about everything

and honestly it felt like a completely different experience

i enjoyed it more. i trusted myself more. i didn’t spiral over every small thing

i think that’s the biggest thing i’d change if i could go back

just trusting that you figure it out as you go

curious if anyone else feels that way or if there’s something else you’d do differently