Have been in the "arranged rishta process" for half a year and no luck
Aa yall.
Started the whole rishta process around 6-7 months ago. Contacting relatives/rishta aunties/WhatsApp groups, basically the whole arranged marriage route cuz i have no game..
its been 7 months, n before yall call me picky i think i said yes to 10 men? or 12? I lost count. and had the aunty forward my profile n pics.
response was no or silence. we couldn't even get to the "family visiting" stage. now this has the rishta aunties stumped cuz acc to them "aisa usually nhi hota"/"koi ghar kyun nhi araha?"
26f btw, and here are the comments ive gotten on my profile and pics for context:
profile: strong/solid/acha/educated etc.
pics:
not stylish
too simple
profile and pictures "dont match" -- WHAT?
average looking (ouch but ok ig)
needs makeup
needs no makeup
needs filters
go to a photo studio
ABOVE ALL: the constant drama over my hijab..yes I cover my hair and wear an abaya. I had to FIGHT my own parents (who are VERY strict on physical modesty) to LET ME cover my hair in my rishta pics.
my dad literally told me to take off my scarf cuz its a mans right to ask for pics without hijab. lol no. didnt listen. no regrets btw.
my latest pics from last Dec is me at a wedding in fancy af clothes and makeup WITH THE HIJAB ON...
also ive been told young men these days dont prefer hijabis..?
I dont rlly wish for marriage at all but want my parents to be happy so here I am..
if you've made it this far, thank you for ur time. any similar experience/advice/insight is appreciated.
Posted Apr 1, 2026, 8:33 PM UTC