30m and 31f ex’s getting back together?

Hello!! My ‘30m’ and my ex ‘31f’ broke up last year. It was the result of bad communication and built up resentment over time that came to a head that we both couldnt push to the anymore. We decided to split up, move away from each other, and go our separate ways. Together total for 6 years.

We recently started texting each other again and as a result of that, visiting each other as well. She has stated that she feels comfortable and hopeful about getting back together. At the time, i felt the same. However, more recently I’ve been having doubts about us getting back together. I truly, truly love her deep down and we tick each others boxes so very well, but i’m struggling with the fact that I might actually prefer being single since I was with her for so long. I’m not great at explaining, but the level of agency that I have feels like a superpower on its own. I have my own time, my own responsibilities, my own decisions that I can make without a third party (partner) possibly wanting to do something different. Things dont change, I can have a mildly set schedule without too much variance.

I need advice, maybe I need to have a proper sit down and weigh what’s important to me, i’m not sure. What I do know is that I dont want to regret making a choice. Once I make my choice, I will live with it.

I truly love her, so it feels like it should just be a one-two. We both love each other, why not? Something is holding me back from fully making that choice. I’ve been described as having an Avoidant attachment style. I feel as if i only recently became more Avoidant.

Am i too set in my comfort and holding myself back from growth by not taking more risk in my life? Can my more mundane lifestyle truly be more satisfying for me than my lifestyle with a relationship?

Have I become too comfortable in my mundane lifestyle that I dont want to make big changes that fall outside of my expectations?

I would have to move states to be with her but I mentally, REALLY cannot place myself living in the city she is currently in.

It wouldn’t be right of me to get back together with her, fully knowing that this is not something I want. But why wouldnt it be something i want if i truly loved her?