Help!! Quick Advice Needed

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I literally just posted in here the other day about my declining interest in baby related matters. As I’m getting off work, I see the beginning of a text asking me to be, what I assume from what I can see (afraid to open it), a godmother!!!

As mentioned in a previous post, I have grown up to be very family oriented since I am the oldest child amongst 5 siblings and oldest granddaughter amongst all cousins. So everyone has seen me be great with babies and children. However, now that I’m 26, completely childfree, I really do not care to revolve my life around babies anymore. I was 21 when I stopped caring for and helping raise my brothers, and also was a lame teenager. So right now all I care about is my hobbies and having fun! I’m going out all the time, staying out late occasionally, traveling, and I am just free. I feel like an empty nester going through a midlife crisis but I love it lol!

Please how do I gently respond and decline the godmother role? To add, I’m already a godmother but they live very far from me and it helps a lot. This would be too close locally and I worry this would affect my new lifestyle.

Gentle advice on how to respond please. My family, except my mother and very select few, do not know that I had a bi-salp and will be childfree as well. I’m a recovering people pleaser and this is family. Thank you all so much.

Posted Apr 1, 2026, 8:36 PM UTC

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