Landed 1 date in a year

I (29M) broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years at the beginning of 2025 and have only landed a single date since. No meaningful relationships before that except a high school girlfriend. I have profiles on hinge, bumble, tinder, and FB dating. I've been able to get matches, but can't seem to get anyone to respond more than twice. Just in the past week, I've gotten 6 matches on hinge and 5 of FB dating, 3 on tinder, and 1 on bumble, and not a single person has replied more than once.

I've asked a few people on dates in the real world, including a person I was very close to and had strong feelings for, they were all rejections.

I have a high-paying job, interesting (but slightly extreme) outdoor hobbies, own a condo, in very good physical shape, 6ft tall, not ugly, yada yada. I feel like I'm worth someone's time.

I'm turning 30 in a few months. Reflecting back on my dating life in my 20s, I'm feeling that my chances of finding someone are not so good. I'll have 10 first dates from now until the time I'm 40 at this rate. I'm not sure if my game just sucks or what. My profiles are set to "short term, open to long" which is accurate. it would be cool to find a real, lasting relationship but at this point I'm happy just treating someone to a nice dinner for their time.

Sample openers:

> recently moved to <state>

when did you move to <State>?

> says they're a PHD student in their profile

"what are you studying"?

> blank profile

I comment "very cute" on a picture

Does anything stick out that might be reducing my success?

Posted Apr 1, 2026, 8:40 PM UTC

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