Hi everyone, I’m a 23-year-old guy and I’ve never kissed anyone, never been intimate with a woman, never had a date and never had a girlfriend. To be honest, this didn’t bother me that much until about one or two years ago. I was mostly focused on my hobbies, my studies in university and on myself. Recently though, I started to feel like I would actually like to experience that part of life as well. Sometimes I also feel a bit lonely and there’s the thought that maybe I’ve missed out on something. The problem is that I have basically zero experience, so I don’t even know how to start approaching this. Another issue is that I have pretty strong insecurities about my height. I’m about 5'8" (173–174 cm), which is below average where I live (Germany), especially for guys my age. Because of that I often worry that women might simply not find me attractive at all. I’ve attached two pictures just to give an idea of what I look like. I have received a few compliments before, but mostly from slightly older women. Personally, I tend to see myself as quite unattractive, which makes me question whether it even makes sense for me to try dating. At the same time, I’m not completely inactive. I go to the gym, I do martial arts, and I recently started partner dancing (Salsa/Bachata). I do it because it’s fun, but also because it’s a way to meet women. Sometimes I feel like women there probably don’t find me attractive either – but then again, I once went to a Bachata party where I danced with about 10 different women, which is honestly the biggest “success” I’ve had so far. I guess they wouldn’t have danced with me if I was completely repulsive. So overall I’m just very unsure how to approach this whole topic. I’d really like to experience dating and relationships at some point, but my insecurities (especially about my height) make it hard for me to believe it’s realistic. Has anyone been in a similar situation or started dating relatively late? Any advice would be appreciated.

23M, Virgin, Am I ugly?