When the trash takes itself out

I was ghosted this week after a loooong time and I almost forgot what it felt like. The older you get, the less you expect people your age to act this way. But I’m proud of myself because it doesn’t induce severe anxiety the way it used to some years ago, you know? Still, I need to talk about it because it… sucks.

I (27F) had been talking to this guy (27M) for nearly a month. What I loved about him is that he knew a lot of things. I’m very attracted to men who are knowledgeable or have a lot going on. He was a lawyer, but he also studied psychology (hilarious considering how things ended lol) and worked as a coach on weekends. Beautiful guy, to be honest. We had really long, interesting conversations before we finally met up.

Our first date was about four hours long, just coffee and a walk. He drove me home after. Our second date was at his office. He seemed really excited to show me his stuff. He ordered food, made me coffee, and we talked for six hours… Also, his body language was positive the whole time (or so I thought). Before we left, he told me he wanted to see me again, so I went home HAPPY.

Then, I proposed a cinema date for the following week…… I mean, you wanted to see me again, right? Let’s do it!

Delivered for 21 hours.

Okay, something’s up. He responded to my other messages but wouldn't say a word about the date. I eventually asked if he wanted to continue because I sensed the shift and didn’t want to keep asking if he wasn't interested. All he had to say was yes / no.

No response for days. Well, that’s an answer in itself, isn’t it?

I almost started mourning his death, but considering he’d previously left me on read for 21 hours, he was probably still alive. Today I removed him from my followers and following lists. I couldn’t even think of the nice time we spent together, I was disgusted. I know he probably has someone else, my GUT is telling me so but… who cares? I don’t care. I know what I can offer to a man. But still hurts a bit. I only opened up to dating again after a breakup in November and… I don’t have words for how f*cked dating is nowadays. Now, my question is: how can you know so many things but not how to communicate?…… Huh. Food for thought.

But heyyyy looking for support. Or maybe a personal story? Sometimes you just have to take someone ghosting you as a blessing, even if it hurts.