Friend (46M) is coming to visit me (33F) later this month. How do I approach this situation?

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I’ll try to keep this brief while covering all essential details: I met a man on Tinder in 2019 while I was visiting his city. We really hit it off. I travel there semi-frequently, so we’ve been able to see each other over the years. We’re good friends, text almost every day. We have gone through platonic seasons of our relationship over the years, but we have intense sexual chemistry.

He’s flying out to visit me in a few weeks. We’re both big sports fans, so he’s coming to watch our respective cities teams play each other. It’s his first time in my part of the country, and he’s staying for almost a week.

My question is: how do I bring up the subject of if this is a platonic visit or something more? I am truly fine with either route, I just don’t want to overstep and then make the whole trip weird for him. I also might plan a small trip for us a few hours away while he’s here, but I don’t know how to bring up, “if we stay over night someplace, should I book a room with one bed or two?”

I know I am a probably overthinking this but I just don’t want to make him uncomfortable.

Posted Apr 2, 2026, 10:35 PM UTC

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