how to tell if i’m genuinely ugly?

throughout my (16F) life it’s been made abundantly clear to me how unattractive i am by my peers. as a child / young teenager i got picked on for my looks relentlessly, not to mention that til this day i’ve never experienced genuine romance, i’ve never even had a first kiss. it never bothered me because i had just assumed that i got older id naturally grow more attractive but now i’m 16 and 15kg lighter and i still feel just as hideous then as i did now. people often tell me that they can’t “see me dating anybody” which iykyk is code for “you have a face only a mother can love” however i still get praised for my looks constantly by adults both around me and adult strangers. but never, and i mean NEVER, anyone my own age. just yesterday i was on live with a friend and he causally mentioned that i looked like a man??? i put SO much effort into my appearance every single day and for what? i don’t know if i’m genuinely ugly or not. how does one even tell?