"Just adopt" Major Vent. Also, I hate everybody.
I'm so fucking sick of people telling me to "just adopt." Adoption is an incredible, wonderful thing but it is certainly not easy.
It's extraordinarily expensive and can take years and years. You have to be 30 to even get on a lot of waiting list. There are 36 couples for every baby in the United States and a lot of sad stories of foster children being returned to their biological families after bonding with their adoptive parents. International adoption requires huge amounts of money and resources. And politicians using children as pawns certainly haven't made things easier.
The system desperately needs to change and adoption needs to be more accessible. If it were that easy I would have adopted by now. Adoption is it's own struggle of waiting and hoping. It is it's own journey and not some easy fall back. So shut the fuck up, you have no idea what you're talking about. And when I make the mistake of telling someone about my struggles with fertility they give me some holier-than-thou bullshit about how there are so many children in the world who are unwanted and they would want to help them instead. Well I would like to also.
Do you think I'm some selfish asshole who doesn't care about orphans? Is insurance covering adoption? Are you going to pay for my lawyer? Do you have any fucking idea about what kind of difficult process it is?
Mind you that I have never heard parents who have adopted talk about adoption as an easy choice. These parents have been through so much to be with their children and would never minimize adoption in that way. In my experience this has then my single friends who have no idea what the fuck they're talking about.
Excuse me for my tone but I just got my period and then received a baby announcement in the mail from my friend who told me my miscarriage " happened for a reason. Because it wasn't the right time."
Now I'm off to my job where I work with special needs children and parents constantly second-guess my recommendations for a behavioral interventions because I don't have my own kids. I hate everybody except my dogs, who by the way, are not an excuse for some asshole to comment on how I need a real baby.
Btw this book really helped me get through and would really recommend thank u whichever community member sent me the link
Posted Apr 2, 2026, 10:47 PM UTC