Being stealth is so hard 🥺

I'm a trans man but nobody knows that because I pass far too well, meaning they always use my correct pronouns and treat me like any other man, a burden that weighs heavy on me daily. It has alienated me from other trans men, who are girly and embarrassing. The other day I tried to interact with a "man" who was obviously trans and it ended in disaster. This guy had pink hair, a septum piercing, cat ears, and hips wider than the Hoover dam. He obviously hated me because he thought I was cis, seeing as I am so manly and normal. He hissed at me because I didn't look as gay and stupid as he does. Any of you other guys have this issue?