I may have learned something recently that might help you

If you have a weak personality or don't know how to talk to people, that's not entirely your fault, and that's what I felt; it's a reaction to your actions. Which you can't control, but I felt there was something I finally discovered: if you're talking to a random person, it's that my speech or connection has levels.

Connection has levels.

If you feel like you don’t know how to talk to people, it’s not entirely your fault. I used to feel the same. A lot of it comes from past experiences you couldn’t control.

What I realized is that connection doesn’t happen all at once. When you talk to someone new, you should start simple and light, asking normal questions like what they like or where they’re from. This part is just about comfort.

After that, you slowly become a bit more real. You might say something small about yourself, like preferring calm people. This is where interest actually begins, because the other person starts to see who you are.

If the conversation goes well, then you can go deeper. You can share things like feeling misunderstood or that your past relationships didn’t last. This is where real connection and trust are built, but not everyone can handle this level, and that’s completely okay.

Sometimes, staying in the lighter levels is enough, especially with people you don’t know well.

Finally, and this is the best thing, be yourself, and know that's good enough. If your goal is love, then the one who loves you will do anything for you. Just be yourself and avoid the pretentious persona, because it's like giving medicine to a dead person.