Dog died, blame husband, filing for divorce

Dog died, blame husband, filing for divorce

I took my daughter (6) on a girls trip. Husband called and said my dog died. He said he doesn’t know how but suspects some type of internal injury due to trauma. My son (10) pushed back on his desk chair, hit dog, dog yelped, dog died a few minutes later.

Issues in my marriage bc husband can be very immature and selfish although he holds a professional position and wasn’t always this bad in behavior. He has gone to therapy and is on meds for depression. I often feel like I have a child and not a husband due to his behavior. But he seems to function great at his high paying and important job.

Apparently, husband and son were playing video games. Dog is 8 pounds. He was laying up against son’s chair. Husband wasn’t aware and dog died.

I would not have let that happen if I was home. I didn’t let the dog in the office around rolling chairs bc I know my son isn’t aware of the dog. Husband was neglectful in my opinion.

I cannot forgive him and I want a divorce. Not just for this but the gradual decline of our marriage and his ability to function as an adult.

Husband is now telling me I’m a horrible person for blaming him for my dogs death and that he is done with me. It makes my grieving even more painful. I think I may actually hate my husband at this point.

Marriage has a history of emotional abuse. I’ve been blamed for lots throughout our 20 year marriage. Like I said, husband is immature and can be an asshole.

I just need to vent. And I need to know that I am not crazy for not being able to forgive him this time. I’ve forgiven him so much over the years. I have been so compassionate and kind to my own detriment. Now my dog is dead bc of that. I think I feel immensely guilty too. I cannot stop thinking about my dog and how he is just gone. And now I have to care for my daughter on this trip and I just don’t know how to do any of this. It is just so hard.