Another Holiday. Another conflict

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tl:dr: always conflict when holidays come around between my wife and I.

Context: my wife's last remaining family member passed this past spring.

My wife hates my family. She has many reasons why.

My parents or in their late eighties. They're getting really creaky and almost frail.

For years I have not gone for Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays etc. It was just easier.

I told her I was going for Easter at my parent's 3 days ago.

She said ok and she doesn't care if I go.

Since then I have been yelled at, scolded, treated like a child and ignored.

I am so sick of this. People tell me to go no contact. My parents have only a handful of years left. I want to visit them.

When I call them she says I seem happy after. Then the crap starts.

I am so sick of this shit.

If I visit my life is hell for weeks after.

If I don't visit I get the silent treatment from my parents for weeks after.

I'm just venting because I. need to .