AITA for not liking my best friend’s new boyfriend

I (17F) don’t like my friend’s (16F) new boyfriend (17M). Neither does our other friend (17F) or my boyfriend (17M). 

So some backstory, the new boyfriend, we’ll call him Gary, and I have been friends for about a year. We met in one of our classes last year and clicked pretty fast. We hung out a lot and we know a lot about each other. Then second semester of this school year happened and we had English together, where my friend, Kelly, had it, too. They met and hit it off as friends pretty quickly. Gary talked about her a lot, but it never really clocked to me why. Then the day before Valentine’s Day, he told me he liked her and wanted to ask for her number. I was super excited and happy for both of them, but when he asked for it, she was initially on the fence. 

Our friend, Samantha, had her birthday that weekend and the three of us had a sleepover, where Kelly almost DID NOT SHUT UP ABOUT GARY at all. 

We do this thing called hot tub tea, where we all go in the hot tub and talk about recent like updates or drama. In the hot tub I was talking about me and my boyfriend, Reece, and our recent “activities” and Kelly kept asking questions. About details and stuff. It was kinda weird for all three of us.

Then Kelly started talking about Gary MORE and said she’d been texting him all day but swore she didn’t like him.

Some background about Kelly. Me, her and Samantha have been friends since 7th grade and I love them so much. Kelly’s had one serious boyfriend before but they broke up at the beginning of 8th grade. Since then she’s liked about 5 different guys but hasn’t gotten with any of them. Now Gary’s come along and showed a lot of interest in her and I’m fairly certain she’s into the fact that he simply likes her, not anything else.

Not to sound like a bitch but he sucks. He’s rude to everyone and self deprecating all the time. He’s so mean to everyone around him, and then he has no friends and says it’s everyone else’s problem. I really don’t get why Kelly’s into him, honestly. And not to sound like a bitch even more but he’s such an odd looking guy. Kelly’s a goddess basically but Gary is weird looking, really short, has a weird buzz cut, and walks like a leprechaun.

Anyways skipping forward a bit, they talked for about 2 days before they got together. Then waited about 3 days before saying I love you. Then 4 days after that, they had their first kiss and got to second base in the same day. For all y’all confused people, second base means her shirt and bra were  off and there was touching and a lot of making out. 

Me and Samantha both do NOT like Gary. There are some other reasons, trust me. They only ever talk to each other, they’re always together, they never hang out with the whole friend group anymore. The worst part is that since Kelly started dating him, her mental health has plummeted, and she only talks to him about it. Also they are all about the PDA and being all gross in public with each other.

Last night, me and Samantha had been talking about confronting Kelly about all this, because we had felt pushed away, when all the sudden, she texted US about it. She said how she knew she’d been distant and that she’d just been really stressed out about a lot recently, but she’d talked with Gary about it. Me and Samantha then called her on FaceTime and came to her with our worries about her, but not quite our worries about her relationship with Gary. 

Everything seemed good and dandy for like 20 minutes until I got a text from none other than Gary. He formatted it like a fucking college essay. He said all this stuff about how I needed to come to HIM if I had a problem with him, and not Kelly, because I had seemed distant lately. And I had been, I admit that, but you have no idea how uncomfortable it is to be a third wheel to a heavy PDA couple. It sucks and it makes you not want to be around either of them. Samantha has third wheeled Reece and I in the past, but we always try to keep her in the conversation and not just talk to each other. Samantha has never felt grossed out or excluded. I feel like that every time I’m with kelly and Gary. 

I told him I didn’t have a problem with him and that I just don’t think we can talk that much anymore because he’s dating my best friend and that just feels kinda weird.

He started twisting my words and going off and saying things like “oh I didn’t realize that we can’t be friends anymore” and deadass saying “oh so you hate me?” And he got all passive aggressive and kept saying shit like that and eventually I just said I had to go and stopped replying.

I’m so done with him and he’s not getting the fact that I can’t talk to him like we used to. He did the exact same thing to me when I started dating Reece actually. He started ignoring me and he was a dick to Reece too. Now I’m just slightly ignoring him and he won’t shut up about how I “hate him”. 

And he wasn’t even friends with Reece. He doesn’t have friends. THIS IS PROBABLY WHY.

Am I the asshole for not likening him? And should I do something about this relationship??

Samantha here adding on. I’m the 5th wheel of our friendship so when they started dating I was like “here we go again” but happy for them. They are actually impossible to be around. Reece doesn’t always eat lunch with us giving us some time to be just the girls. Gary is always there. Kelly never talked to us anymore. Reece and Nora are fine to be around and I even hang out with them a lot. I cannot go 5 minutes with just Kelly and Gary. And Gary gives me this weird off feeling. Apparently he’s really hard to break up with cause he’ll threaten to khs and honestly he’s kinda rude to Nora and I. He’s trying to distance us from her and I don’t know what he said to Kelly to get her to second base when before they were dating she said she would never do anything with a guy until college. Also even though I’m the one who expressed how uncomfortable the couple was to be around he texted Nora about it and didn’t say anything to me. 

(All names are fake)