How to make it work If I can

My bf and I have been dating for a year and a few months now. [F 29 , dx ,Bf 24 has ADHD]. My first time dating someone with ADHD.

Since he began his new job I have gotten no attention from him and I have not seen him and spent time with him in over a month , whenever he gets busy I dont see him for a month , and then I have to tell him we havent seen each other in a month , I khow he gets work from his new job yet all his time and attention is either going to that or he has time to do other things except carve out to spend with me his girlfriend. I did tell him how I feel , I would call him around a certain because that would be the time we would chat and he would phone me yet that has not happend at all. One time he said he was going to call me , gave me a time & then he didnt phone , I asked what happene? He didnt have anwers , then months later he got a new job , we still spoke the day before it , everything was fine between us, then the 2nd day arrived and he just stopped with his good morning texts , texting in the evenings/night and goodnight texts . Ive been telling him how his behavior is making me feel , and that I can I see and need to spend quality time with him , yet every time I bring it up in a text,, he answere the other questions and not the , when are we spending time togethere , can we see each other .

Yet he has to time to be on other socail media and not reply to my texts? When I have tried to call him he wouldnt answer yet the one time I called him he was online on socail media yet he couldnt answer the call from me. His behavior is exactly like the person I was with before him and I left him because I was not getting attention and quality & I moved on.

Ive been trying to find way to stay , I told him it feels like I am the only one fighting. Yet it seems I might only see him when his probation is done for work which is 3 months long , he works normal 9-5 hours and that is no way to be in a relationship with someone you claim to love. He told me that our relationship is the longest he has been in. 3 months is too long for me to not see someone I am dating .

He hasnt been putting the effort , time , attention , not communicating with me at all and Im the only one who is doing that .

He told me been okay just been busy and just been feeling different lately with everything thats been happening. I just have been mainly finding peace with myself and its the Forth time he has been sayn Hi , when he replies to my texts , If I get a reply from him , it seems like he can go on for days without talking to me , seems like he only wants to see me when he feels like and when his not busy yet befofe he got his new job and he wanted to see me Id sacrifice my sleep , and study time to spend time with him yet he cant do the same for me ? In the early months out of no where he would randomly tell me I want to marry you , then asked me where would I like to live one day, he also asked me me out of the blue will I marry him ? And he said he asked me to reassure me. ... he asked those serious questions very early in the relationship.

I really love him alot , the moment I saw I khew I had met my future Husband I have been looking for all these years.

Yet since he got his new job.. things are questanable about our future which I would have never want to have at all.

Iam I asking for too much , how to I make it work and is it possible to make it work?