Between sex dolls & actual relationships

Hi guys! I'm 30 and I just bought my first sex doll.

I have considered this purchase for years but between a lack of money to throw around, the fact that I do have a girlfriend and I've been with her for almost 10 years (so, "no urgency", I do get to drain the balls already, to be blunt lol) and other priorities, I only pulled the trigger now after finding what I think is a crazy good deal. But I'm not here to talk about the doll itself.

I was curious about other guys in long-term relationship handle having sex dolls.

Does she know? What does she think? Does she care at all? Is she even into it? Do you guys even do "threesomes" with her and your doll(/s), if she is?

Not to be a peeping Tom, I don't care specifically what you and your gf do in the bedroom lol It's just because I've had kinda a moral dilemma.

See, I love my gf with every cell of my being. She's the perfect woman for me and I couldn't have been more lucky to find her. She's sweet, caring, loving, intelligent, interesting, attentive, playful, she's everything I could wish for and more.

...besides one thing. She kinda has a low sex drive. If it was for me, I'd do it twice a day. She's, at most, on the twice a week side. Three is a miracle already. 😅 And she's also kinda vanilla. I do like my fair share of kinks. So yeah, the only """problems""" (that pale in comparison to how good the relationship is in everything outside of this specific issue) I have with her are in the bedroom.

I tried to "suggest" or joke about getting a sex doll, or even just ask her about how that would make her feel, and the feedback wasn't... enthusiastic.

I'd never, ever, ever, cheat on her, not in a million years and not after years of blue balls (and I had that too lol We're in Italy and she went six months abroad to study in Spain, in which I only went to visit her once for one week, and one year abroad in France, in which we only saw each other twice, one week when I went there and one week when she briefly came back). I did not cheat on her then, I'm confident she also didn't (I trust her fully and have no doubts whatsoever. If I had, I wouldn't be with her), and I'm definitely not going to do it now that we spend a lot of time together (or, as I said, ever). So a "side hustle" just isn't in the picture and will never be.

We even talked about the difference in our sex drive but if she doesn't feel like doing more than she does it's not like she owes me more sex. If she wouldn't enjoy it what would even be the point.

So I had this problem, and a sex doll is a solution. I get actual sex with my loving girlfriend as much as she wants, AND get some action with an inanimate object with no feelings on the side. Nobody gets hurt. Everyone's happy.

...except I'm feeling guilty about hiding my "solution". Not because I think "it's like cheating" or anything explicitly about the doll itself, if she was fine with it I wouldn't give it a thought. But she doesn't know, I'm pretty sure she wouldn't like it if she knew, and that's what I kinda feel guilty about. Just the hiding and the fear to hurt her if I come clean.

That's why I wanted to listen to some experiences of how other people handle it and (if they know) if their girlfriends are in any way bothered by it.

Feel free to share any advice or thought.