Different perspective of my dead bedroom

I (32F) posted a couple weeks ago about having a hard time initiating sex with my (35M) partner after we went without sex for 2 months, and I thought it would keep getting worse and worse. Well, we had sex last week with him initiating, and it made me feel better because I realize there were a lot of psychological and physical factors involved.

One reason I’ve been scared to initiate is because sex can sometimes be painful, and I thought it was just normal. It turns out that there is a concrete reason for my pain, and I think our sex life may get better after I go through treatment.

I went to the gynecologist yesterday, and they found a suspected endometriosis cyst on my right side a fibroid near my bladder. I have had discomfort having sex for so long that my desire had been so low, and I think this is a large factor. I also have read that endometriosis can kill your sex drive. This has given me hope that maybe after treatment, I have a better chance at enjoying sex with my partner and then building up more confidence to initiate sex.

All of this to say, if you have a female partner who has a hard time having sex, see if there are ways you can support her and work as a team to make sex more enjoyable for both of you!