Best friend ghosting

My best friend and I met at Uni and have grown very close over the last year and a bit. Around the end of last year though she kind of ghosted all of her friends except me. My other friends hated her for this as they felt it was really toxic. A few nights ago she was complaining about said friends not reaching out to her and so I told her that they had given up on being her friend when she ghosted them because she seems to cut people off without warning whenever they upset her. She agreed with me and acknowledged that she does that. I fly home the next day for Easter break snd she hasn’t spoken to me since. We left on good terms.

Last time I went away (a few months ago) she ghosted me as I forgot her birthday (I remembered it in the middle of the day). This was honestly super stressful for me but she started talking to me again a few days later and didn’t acknowledge that anything happened. When I got back she said it was because she was mad at me but forgave me.

My other friends have told me to ditch her and that she bosses me around too much. I admit that she is very particular but I have never minded it too much. I’m very impatient and snappy with her as she’s a bit dense and doesn’t take responsibility for anything in her life.

Honestly, we probably spend too much time together and we both probably resent each other a bit. What steps should I take going forward?