MIL keeps asking about when there will be a baby

So for context my mother in law is not my favorite person in the world. She was not a very present mother to my husband, often favoring men or getting drinks with her girl friends. She was a 24 year old single mom. Essentially, he was raised by his grandparents and viewed his grandmother as his maternal figure.

She has always raved about how being a mother at 24 was so easy and much better than when she had her second child 10 years later. We maintain a healthy distance from her, but we live close by and maybe once a month go over for a meal. We do not share much about our personal life but she tries to pry and get information out of us. We have expressed that we are waiting to try until June (for various reasons particularly our living situation). I would have not shared that with her but she is relentless in obsessively asking.

She even crossed a boundary during Christmas where she gifted us this nasty ornament with baby booties. This was particularly hurtful to me since I found out a friend experienced a miscarriage that same day, who is also 24 years old as myself. We never mentioned that we are trying and it felt so inappropriate to do that.

Every time she sees me she asks when we are going to have a baby and most recently started asking where I will be giving birth and who our pediatrician will be. GIRL I DONT KNOW AND IF I DID I WOULD NOT BE SHARING IT WITH YOU.

Do any of you have advice on how to navigate this? My husband just tells me to ignore it and give vague answers but I worry this will only get worse once I actually get pregnant and not to mention the "pressure" I feel about conceiving within the summertime.

Posted Apr 4, 2026, 1:22 PM UTC

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