AITAH for cancelled my wedd over a chat after 2 years trying to gt my mom's blessing?

Me 23 F and my bf 28 M met when i was college. So, i was college at the different island from where i cm from, At that time i live separated from my family. I met him around the final year of my graduation. At that time he is already finished college n he used to hangout wth my male friends n that's how we met. We love outdoors activities n also into the same game. He is calm, not judgmental, kinda lookin good, n really show that i am the girl of him. Like, he was so proud about me when he brought me to met his friends. N the most likely, he makes me comfortable. So, everything goes just fine, until.... i am about to graduate and my family push me to go back to my hometown. So, my mom are strict! Like soooo strict. She is the true definition of ethnocentric karen. For her, there is not other culture as good as ours. My BF doesn't have the same culture with me. So from the very beginning of our story, is already an exhausted challenge. I tried for 2 years fighting my mom through her stereotype about his culture.

My parents is the type of parents that made the choice for their kids, specially mom. (That's another story). So, my graduation comes near. my mom n my big sister cm to the big city, traveled from my hometown to attend and that's how they met my bf at night before the ceremony. My mom tried her best to not being annoying for whole night n i appreciate that. The conversation between them was going just fine. At the moment i gve a look to my sis that we need to buy something from the small shop across the street. I live at the mini rent room for the college student at that time. My sister understand and we both left my mom n the bf at the room so that they cn have some privacy talks.

My bf left my place around 10pm. After he left, i really wanna ask my mom about their convo after me n my sis left. But, see my mom already asleep makes me take the sme action. Tomorrow is a big day. Lemme make this short. So the ceremony goes well. Mayb i don't need to mention that my bf wasn't there congrats me when i walked out from the door. He literally gave the whole moment just for 3 of us. Idk why.

After tht, my mom mentioned that she told my bf that i will go back to my hometown after i got my degree documents n stuff. I was so sad. Even i used to throw many good opportunity just because they (my parents) said no. Even i was offer to do job at the international bank. But they said no. So, i am tired, done trying n so brokenhearted. I fallen into crying mode for whole day. Even when my mom n sis enter the ship to go back to hometown my mind like spinning. U now, i dont have many exes. I dated because i wanna marry someday. So i don't take it for fun. Seing that situation, i saw that engagement might be fix our problem. So i talk about that to my bf. I have strong reason to stay at the city also find again my dream job. But, they way he replied is "I never think about that, this is the very first time im gonna bring a girl infront on my mom (cus his dad is passed away). I don't wanna my mom thnk that am honna replace her wth a stranger."

What the actual fck? Hearing that idk how to talk anymore. So, for all this time. After all the fun smack down I am nothing more that a fcking stranger? I gave him ultimatum that, he going to propose or i leave. He looks so strssfull. I mean, the reality tht he don't even showed up at my graduation is annoyed me enough. But after all the tears, we decided to just go wth the flow even after we seperate (long distance relationship). After go back to my hometown. I have a job offered from the government company as a trainee. I took it. The sub boss is like my friend when i do the internship for finish my degree. So, am in. U know, not every trainee is luck as me. I was chosen to join the main team. We taking care money report n government program directly from the ministry. The office really used my talent well. So, i also chosen to go for official travel to do monitoring for the project. Sometimes at the islands, sometimes at the big city. Every official travel gave me good money. So i save that for the wedd we pland together. Oh ya, FYI, i used to pay for every single meal n date we did when we still living at the same city. Cus, at that time he is unemployed. N of course, fool me saw it as something romantic. Ew..... romantic my ass.

So, my first official travel wasn't go well. I remembered that time i told him about my progress at the workplace n about the official travel. N he started to accuse me for being show off. N said that, every trainee now how to manage their bosses while doing official travel. What the actual asshole. I told him, say it out loud, u thnik am gonna sleep wth my boss during official travel? N he answed "WHO KNOWS"

After that. I need to lie every time i do official travel. N i feel bad to my slf. I started to not enjoy my life after that. There is one thng also, he always mentioned that i cannot work at the same room or place with a man. N because i can't do his wish so i need to face time him like 24/7. Everything goes bad after we are in long distance relationship. He started to gt jealous of nothng! N here it come the final of my passion. When he told me to tell my parents that he is gonna come to marry me. N i did. Everyone was happy, Everythng was set. After long longggggg time. My mom finally accepted. Then, the rolling doubt attacks.

I started to ask my self like why everything about this marriage, he never talk to my parents. Event everytime we call or face time, he never ask for my parents. Like, we know for sure, we need to do smooth way to gt their heart n blessing. I know my mom can be really annoying. But, still..... he can't just ignored them especially when we planned for traditional marriage base on my culture. N beside that, something happened at the office tht irritated me to death.

So we at the plus hour meeting wth my bos n my team. FYI, the team is 6 people. Including my bos n my sub bos. We need to do the after hour work cus we need to discuss about important thing. So, 6 people, 4 man n 2 women including me. 1 of the woman is pregnant, she can't stay after 9pm. Her husband picked her up rght away after the meeting was end. After that we about to go bck home, but my bos insist we need to eat, cus he already ordered the food for all of us. Mind me, i missed my lunch, so i am freaking hungry. N immediately stay to wait for the food. They food arrived like 10 min later. N we started to eating.

Just the first spoon touched my mouth, the bf called me. I pick it up. He started to asked like "Where are u?" i replied "Still at the office, eating. i am fuckin hungry. U know i missed my lunch." And he was furious! He told me what the hell am doing until this time staying at the office? What kinda meeting tk this long? And told me to open my camera so that he can see who is there wth me. I opened the cme n just for letting u guys know, i forget my earphones at that moment, so..... the call automatically go to the speaker mode. I show him everyone. N he started to asked about the other women i mentioned that also in the team. I explained that she is pregnant, she can't stay more longer n bla bla bla. N he is going crazy! He started to accuse me for lie. He order me to go home like a soldier. I was so embarrassed. My bos n the other acts calm but i know, they just tried their best. I gave him a look n a sign that my bos was there through my phone screen. N he now started to bad wording my bos also. I am sooooo done. I said sorry to my bos, to the team, pack my thngs n leave from the room. My team gave me look that they're totally understand. I feels like i am dying inside.

He order me to stay on call until i really reach my home. After reached my home n enter my room. I keep quite. I am so tired being untrustworthy. I dont find a word to say. Also he asked me why am so quite. N i said, i am tired. N againnnnn he accused me to being worked late!!!! N if my gastric syndrome relapse, he wouldn't gve a shit. I am done. I hangout the call n turned off my phone.

The next morning my mom cm to my room n so excited to tell me all of the wedd preparation. My mind go blank. I don't have the nerve to tell my mom about my doubts after all those fights becuz of this asshole. At the evening, ma bf sister chat me about wht kina jewelry i wanted for the wedd gift base on my culture rules. I went to my mom n ask all about. TBH, my love suddenly disappeared. Mightb bcus i was praying last time late of the night that if he is not the one, at least mke this love go away my dear Lord.

N tht feeling keep kicking me hard when the date of he n his family come is near. One night, i just can't hold it anymore. Well, i frgot also to mention that he just gt a job n that make my parents wait for him n his family decision to cme to our hometown after he called it 2 times. So..... not again. I grabbed my phone, gve him a chat that he need to waste his money to cm n travel here in my hometown, cus i don't think the wedd gonna happen. I can't b wth someone that can't trust me. N i am not happy. I keep trying my best to look about the positive side about the whole thng. But, i ended up lost in cries. N u know what he replied?

"Okay"

Just it. So, IATH for cancelled my wedd after 2 years trying to gt my mom's blessing?