80 year old nmom moved a rando in and is transferring money to him.

This is going to be all over the place so forgive me. Background - she has first husband in the ground. OG husband of 40+ years was an enabler and died from her travel hobby because if he had treated his suspected bowel cancer he probably would not have been able to do that one last viking cruise. Could write a book on that one. Second husband only lasted 18 months. He was also a narc. That was a disaster. So her "friend" just got divorced from his wife of 40+ years to move in with her. I'm on her bank accounts but do not have POA but I at least see the money moving and has helped me put the brakes on a few times when she started bouncing checks. I log in for my quarterly "what is she up to" and Im seeing $10K here, $5K there all made out to this guys she has known for a little over a year to "Joint account".

I text'd her the images and and responded with "You know old man dick is free right?". And added up the amount she has given to this guy who is a total stranger and reminded her that over the last 20 years she has contributed $0 to her 6 grandchildren's 529 while racking up close to a half million in travel costs with various random men Post my dad's death. Meanwhile she is fighting me because I'm trying to get a propper head stone in for my dad. She owns the plot and is on the approval committee for the local church cemetary. She got a free marker from the VA and wrote "My heart will go on". On my dad's free temu "thanks for being a good soldier" grave marker plaque. While doing this - she won't let me take the ashes of my great uncle from my father's side who's liquidated estate is the funding source she is burning through. So anyway I don't think i'm in the will anymore. Not that it matters because the dude she has moved in will probably be added. Oh wells