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Devrenee71

Help! Advice needed

Me and my husband have a son who turns 1 in 2 weeks. Just a little backstory -

We’re both 27 and very silly and immature funny people. We love to do really weird stuff to make him laugh and we’re rarely ever serious. However, I (mom) have been more of the caretaker. I stayed home with him for the first 3 months and different two week breaks when I couldn’t work. I’m a strict routine person and I provide a ton of structure. I do his bedtime routines (feed and read) I also do a lot of silly stuff and play. My husband tends to be a tad more outrageous and silly with him than I am but we’re both equally funny. Whenever my husband is home, he is all over him instead of me and will scream when he walks away or goes by him without acknowledgement. He never does this for me. He also tends to crawl towards my husband way more and will actively prefer him. When he holds him, he’s not really fussy but when I hold him, he is a lot of the time. If I’m playing with him alone and my husband is home, he will always crawl to wherever he is and if I pull him away, he gets so upset. He squirms away from me constantly and just genuinely does not act like he loves me hardly ever. At bedtime, he will crawl to me more when he’s ultra irritable tired but that’s basically it. I’ve put in so much effort to be fun, make him laugh, etc and it all seems pointless. He says dada constantly too and seems to be associating my husband with it but mom is rare and he never tells it to me directly. To add - my husband does do a lot of projects at home, so he is definitely absent a lot of his wake up and so I guess that could be why my son treats him like oh welcome in

Posted Apr 5, 2026, 2:49 AM UTC

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