I think I might be being abused, but I think im crazy.

So, today I’ve been dealing with a lot. My parents (the narcissists in the post) told me that they’re going to literally monitor when I use my phone during the night, they threatened to shut down my phone during school hours and turn off adult content despite me being 18 and going to college. They did this after I slipped up a ton (by not cleaning my room, refusing to wear a ring that tracks when I sleep, etc.) They say they’re only trying to help me with my phone addiction (despite them saying before that it’s their fault). And that I shouldn’t feel vindicated by this because I “have nothing to hide.” Despite me being very clear that this is a breach of my privacy. They’re well aware that I hate being intruded on. But they still did this, amongst also threatening to turn off my phone because they can.

They’ve done stuff like this before (checked my phone if they feel like I lie too much, get mad at me for buying stuff with my own money because I have a hobby, etc.)

My mother also threatened to take all my packages away once because I ordered stuff despite her saying no (because I bought it with my own money.)

Am I genuinely in the wrong? I feel unsafe around them and I lie to them to try and placate them. But am I a bad person for believing this is too far?