Random opinion attack from the in-laws

Update: It gets weirder. FH sat me and MIL down for a chat since she was the main instigator of this whole thing. After lots of digging and what felt like a literal therapy session, turns out MIL is mad at me for a comment I made in passing to someone three years ago, which accidentally ruined a surprise that meant a lot to her. I had no idea about the surprise.

Essentially, I believe she created this environment to “teach me a lesson” not to speak behind other people’s backs. It’s as batsh*t as it sounds. Myself and FH are absolutely dumbfounded and disgusted.

It finally all makes sense why she’s been constantly saying to me “I hate two faced people” / “I don’t like people who talk behind other peoples backs”. When I left the room crying after what happened below, all she did was come out, hug me, and say “this is why we don’t talk behind other people’s backs and in a cruel way this is a lesson”

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I’m so upset. Went to visit the in-laws and FH’s grandma yesterday and ended up bawling my eyes out.

In what felt like a literal random attack, they expressed to me (only me - not FH, conveniently when he was out of the room) that they think black groomsman suits are ridiculous, FH’s dad has said that he will be turning up in a blue suit, that they think it’s MY wedding and not FH’s, and that they’re upset that FH’s niece and nephew aren’t included.

I feel absolutely bombarded and blindsided.

I’m genuinely such a chill bride and all decisions have been made jointly between me and FH. They’ve shown very little interest or excitement since we started wedding planning.

I love his family so much but not once has my FH voiced that he wants his niece and nephew involved therefore we haven’t arranged for that. Bear in mind we still have 7 months until the day.

We’re having black groomsman suits because it’s a late autumn wedding and they’re having green pocket squares / accessories and we thought that would look nicest.

I’m genuinely just so upset that I had to sit there and defend myself - by myself (as soon as FH heard what was going on he came in to defend me).

It was such a random and intense attack and I really don’t know how to process this.