Family trauma bond

I’m looking for advice from people who have been able to separate themselves emotionally from their family.

I’ve been in a relationship for years with someone who is truly my best friend. But my family strongly dislikes them, and over time it’s affected me more than I want to admit. I’ve found myself self-sabotaging my relationship because of the pressure and opinions from my family.

It feels like I’ve let their influence have too much control over my life, and I don’t want that anymore.

For those who have been in similar situations, how did you start separating yourself from your family in a healthy way? How did you build your own life and make decisions for yourself without guilt or fear?

I just want to be happy and live my own life, but I’m struggling to break that bond.