High achieving men, how did you find your woman?

Lagi nalang when I go on dates, nawawalan ako ng interest pag-nalalaman kong mejo hindi achieving yung ea sa buhay. Pero kapag sobrang achieving naman, ako yung naiintimidate.

May mali ba sakin? or mag-explore lang ako until I find the right match?

For men that are academically on top of their game e.g. PhDs . Paano, paano???