Dating issue

Well i wanna share with you guys my experience And you tell me the right opinion

Im 34 doctor italian lebanese mixed working and living in italy i tried to make a familly and everything here but cuz many sides european ladies its big issue to get married with and i also have friend who get married from kenya and when i met him i saw his lady how she treat him And i tried to do the same and i got trip there 50% trip to see culture there and 50% to see if i get to know someone

When i start know ladies there like max 3 days they start ask for money like i have to pay them to get to know them and i didn't feel comfortable At all with that and i wanna make sure is it the culture say the man should pay before knowing the one maybe will be his wife or i don't know