AITA for telling my roommate to get a new job if we bother her that much?

Asshole

I live in a dorm/apartment with 5 other girls, all of us ranging from 18-20. Not sure if it matters but both myself and the roommate in question are 18 and freshman.

I became really close with 2 of our roommates at the beginning of the year. Usually at night, we'll hang out in the living room, make stuff, watch Tiktoks, etc. Sometimes we'll have other friends over, which is allowed as long as we aren't drinking or anything.

One of our roommates has been working as a CNA at a local nursing home, she works 6am to 6pm, Friday-Sunday. When she's not at work or class, she's in her room and barely comes out.

There are many times she comes out at night on the nights before she has work to ask us to quiet down, that she has to be up early. This is usually around 9-11pm that she does this, when our nights are just starting.

Recently, our RA messaged us and told us we were having a meeting. This usually happens if one roommate is having a concern. This roommate sat down and told us how we were making it hard for her to sleep at night or waking her up, how physically demanding her job is, etc.

The RA basically told us after 8:00 to keep the noise down or go to a common area if we wanted to be louder.

Last night we came in at 11:30 and accidentally let the door go too fast and it slammed. Our roommate storms out of her room, sobbing that we startled her and woke her up and she can't go back to sleep, and she has a hard section at work tomorrow.

One of our other roommates asked her how hard working at a nursing home could possibly be, that she's just helping old people, she told us it must be nice having a job where we can sit the whole shift (2 of us work in the campus gym, the other works in the library) and she claims she doesn't get a break her entire 12 hour shift.

Our RA has texted us yet again for other meeting. She came home tonight and went straight to her room, I told her if working at a nursing home is that hard, she can just get an on-campus job like we have so she can stop complaining.

Posted Apr 5, 2026, 3:05 PM UTC

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