My learnings through love on the fullness of femininity

The one woman you call yours is your greatest source of knowledge, wisdom and self-awareness. I have had this realisation for a while. I have been telling her that she shapes my mind and my way of thinking more than any person or book would. But now, as we are more intimate physically, I have access to another realm of her being. That exclusive, mystical, heavenly realm has taught me, among other things, the fullness of femininity.

When women get a great orgasm, they describe it as a full-body experience. There is ample literature written about the female orgasm that talks about it. But this completeness of experience and feelings isn’t just limited to an orgasm. You can experience this in everything a woman does with her own man. You see it when she is scared, startled, sad, or happy. Once she drops her guard and opens up to you, you will often find yourself marvelling at how she experiences an emotion in its completeness.

Of course, she wouldn’t know what you are talking about coz this is just the natural state for her. But as a man, having been brought up on a staple diet of “keeping a balance” and “being in control”, the closer you get to her, the more you would notice this. Which is why, for a man in love, it is almost natural to relish her joy more than his own. The man can’t experience this level of bliss in himself, but through this bond, you get to live it vicariously. It’s almost a cheat code or a life hack on how to get the hidden benefits of your relationship as a man.

The other thing a woman immerses herself completely in is revolt or resistance. If she doesn’t want something, she can go to any lengths to avoid it. You simply can’t make a woman do things. This includes intimacy as well. Social structures have historically put women in positions where they had to submit themselves to the will of men, but even there, if she would silently resist by keeping or denying some part of the experience that the man is seeking.

The flip side of this tendency is her complete submission. If you are the one for him, she will give you everything she has and more. Sex wouldn’t require kinetic energy after that. Her entire body would open up to absorb and nurture you through the experience. Your body would be the medium for the energy source inside her, making you almost observe the act your own body is performing.

As a man, experiencing this fullness of experience is probably my greatest emotional learning and source of extreme elation. When people talk about being in touch with your feminine side as a man, it doesn’t just mean having an eye for fashion and clothes and beauty and keeping the home organised. Those are minor things compared to how you can emotionally grow by finding that feminine side in you that wants to let go completely and experience things more fully.

Earlier this morning, I was telling her about how, at times, doing something silly for her, like dancing naked just to make her smile, is something I do now without giving it a second thought. It’s something I would have never thought I would be able to do coz my mind would fight back to restore some gravitas, plus I am, anyhow, a reluctant dancer. For the outside world, I am still the same man, but with her, I can let go of every inhibition, whether it is in bed or outside.

I am sure I am only 10 per cent of the way there, but expressing and experiencing emotions fully, shamelessly crying or being shamelessly needy for her or being an unhinged animal in bed has had a calming effect on my overall emotional well-being in addition to feeling the absolute bliss that only love can give.

So yes, go ahead and immerse yourself in the woman you love, mind, body and everything else you can. You won’t regret. Of course, don’t try to find and check the experiences I mentioned here explicitly. She recently told a man who is close to us both to spend the next year of his life trying to build opinions based on his own experiences and not through what you read in a book, and add it to your curated basket of opinions. I thought it was great advice to follow in an era where your opinions are getting moulded by the internet every passing second.

Treat this post as a call to action to go ahead and learn things from your exclusive academy of one.