Does everyone have a toxic ex?

I have a toxic ex who cheated on me a bunch, then deflected accountability and played victim. It’s been years since we broke up. I blocked him on everything. He’d still come around in different ways. First to my house uninvited, or create a new profile on an app and come near my neighborhood so it keeps popping up, add my family or friends on social media, etc. It’s died down but every now and then I see him try it again, which I ignore. Right now, im out of town for a long weekend and I open up the apps and his profile is nearby. No matter how long it’s passed or how you approach the conversation, his approach has always been that he’s a victim of a hard life and the fact he keeps manipulating and doing hurtful things is not in him.

I met so many gay men who have told me they have similar toxic exes. The other day I met a guy. I asked him about his current marriage and he told me he met his husband after getting out of a relationship with his toxic ex, who ended up unaliving themselves because they refused to move on after the breakup. 😳

Have y’all noticed how many guys in the community have a toxic ex? Is this in any way unique to the gay community or are straight guys also like this? And if you had these experiences before, how do you deal with it to avoid something bad happening? Cause you can block them but they can always create a new profile. Unless you no longer use pics and description on your app profiles but that seems unfair that you need to hide .