Don't sleep on massages

Massages are a really underrated tool in anyone's sexual-romantic tool kit. But for bulls especially who want to get into the most psychological, mindfucking, cerebral, or otherwise just more intimate elements of cuckolding massages are a great tool to keep in your back pocket.

I am going to try my best to avoid making sweeping statements around any gender and do my best to speak in general terms here. This is my personal experience and just an idea of things to try, not dogma on how things are or what you should be doing. If you like the sound of it, give it a try in a safe manner. This is just a brief overview and if I was to go into every single nuance this would be an hours long read. But I am happy to share those musings with interested people.

Obvious disclaimer:

1. No means no, and a lot of other things besides no can mean no. Communicate with your partners to make sure no one is uncomfortable or doing/having done to them anything they don't want to be doing. Always communicate and plan prior to doing anything. Don't just spring something that especially could be potentially harmful on someone in the heat of the moment without preparing and research.

2. People aren't kink or fetish dispensers, so don't be a creep about any of this. Treat people like people.

3. Don't be an asshole.

But if I had to describe the power a massage has is kind of like a big dick. Sure, not everyone is going to be into it, but more people under the right circumstances are into it than they initially think, and those who are really into it tend to be very into it.

Some might like it as a part of play and some not. But massaging is an act of care, it can foster trust, and lets you understand someone's body in ways you can't just get from sex.

But in cuckolding it can provide some very unique opportunities that may send some interesting messaging in a dynamic.

So even if it's just something you do for a hot wife or have to do to you outside of the bedroom it still heavily relates to the bedroom.

Going back to the topic of care for a bit. If you're a bull for older couples, chances are you are at some point going to encounter someone with chronic pain. Many good relationships where chronic pain is a partner in the relationship dynamic, because let's be honest anyone who has experienced chronic pain will likely tell you it is a center point of their lives, a massage is usually something that's included in a regular ritual. Hell chronic pain doesn't even have to be in the picture, it can just be sore feet after a hotwife has been in heels all day at work (bonus point for if you have a foot fetish like me) or even just after just some general gym soreness. Personally some of the best sex I've had as a bull has been going to the gym with a hot wife, maybe a quickie in the sauna and showers, then heading home for a nice massage with a happy ending where we fuck each others brains out till we fall asleep together.

So if you're a bull who can navigate learning how to not inflict harm given the context of the pain and help your partner with even temporary relief you hold a great deal of power in your hands.

You have the ability to potentially set the stage for good sex, after all, are you more likely to want to fuck when your body feels like you just got hit by a truck? Or when you're loosened up, maybe dealing with the rush of all those feel good brain chemicals you get from a good massage?

If nothing else, it can in the right circumstances be a good form of aftercare.

But depending on the relationship dynamic if it's allowed, there is a particular amount of psychological dominance you get by performing this act of care a person's partner is supposed to be doing for them, especially when you can do it better than they can.

Even better if you're able to introduce them to the idea and be their first. It's almost the same satisfaction you might get from taking the anal virginity of someone's wife, being her first big dick, being the first person to make her squirt, give her a g spot or piv orgasm, or other things of that nature.

You can also of course just simply do it to feel good. Massages can also be a different type of way to indulge in pain kinks in a very safe manner, it allows you to adjust it to your partners level of desire very easily and with a low barrier to entry under a very easy to learn skill with relatively low risk of harm. (Depending on partners)

But as I hinted at before it's a great way to explore a partner's body, especially if you don't in front of the cuck it can provide an extra layer of mind fuck where you generate a different type of pleasure that can not be replicated anywhere else.

For those on the more extreme end it can display an idea that you are comprehensively mastering their body and a part of a plan to make the cucks partner puddy in your hands if everyone is into that. Though that being said, when done with a very comprehensive approach to cuckolding done with care and respect, I do notice a lot of people kind of lean towards really getting into this angle to varying degrees, if not then with curiosity about the more extreme elements of cuckolding.

You can also incorporate Nuru. Which is especially great if everyone involved likes to emphasize the contrast between you and your partner. When I am in full bear mode doing my winter bulk in my gym training where I tend to peak at 200lbs, some (not all) of my more petite partners do tend to really enjoy the sensation of being crushed a bit. Which I should say isn't unique to petite women or people in general, but I do notice in my own experience it does seem to be a bit more common with them. But like with everything I am saying in this don't fling anything on your partner without prior planning and communication, no still means no regardless.

You can also have your hotwife massage you in the same manner, Nuru also likewise is a blast to be on the receiving end especially if you're into oil play.

But being on the receiving end can give an interesting psychological element to the cuckolding dynamic especially when you have the cuck watching, whether it be video of it or in person. Just like if you were massaging the hotwife it can create a real sense that you're absolutely worshipping her, it can send the same message with you on the receiving end.

Some things I'd combine this with are the following:

•Shower with your hotwife before and after - Helps with hygiene and intimacy

•Cupping - Kits that make use of a pump instead of fire to create a vacuum are relatively inexpensive and can be found online, though do know the risk factors for your partner, and if you can I'd recommend getting one kit per partner, and if not make sure you are taking sterilization seriously

•Tens - Make sure you learn how to use it properly and safely as well as understanding any risk factors your partners may have to keep them safe. Also make sure to keep proper sanitation.

•Recording - If comfortable and like everything else with your partners explicit permission to do so. Just because you can record it does not mean you can post it, unless explicitly given permission to do so.

•A quality oil warmer - A lot easier than playing around with a microwave and safer. If you are going to do warm oil massages I'd only recommend using a dedicated warmer. Good ones normally only warm to safe temps, but always test with your finger first to see if you can tolerate if you are holding it there, then test with your partner's finger.

•Icy Hot or other similar things - Great for contrast play, but it will irritate and really fucking hurt if you get it in your eyes, genitals, or other sensitive spots. Chemical burns to varying degrees can be a risk to those sensitive spots with similar OTC things that do what icy hot does. So do be aware of that.

•Ask about allergies, medical history, medications - If your doing anything with oils and lotions, ask about allergies obviously and follow through with good research to ensure your not getting any allergen exposure. Do safe testing, which your doctor will be able to advise you on if your going to be using this and make sure the recipient does the same. But also ask about medications, certain medications can change how you react to a host of different things. Be on the safe side and ask. Same with medical history. Like you don't need to give someone a full medical workup for this, just ask and communicate with the people involved about what you would like to use on them and ask them do you have any allergies, medications, or medical history that might prevent you from doing this or do you have a preferred alternative. Then just a follow up if they agree about doing due diligence.