my partner is weight conscious

Problem/goal: hi! so basically like the title states my partner is weight conscious.

Context: i met him na medyo chubby chubby ako, around 62-63 kg. then one of my insecurities kasi talaga is feeling ko sobrang taba ko whenever i’m with my friends na thin. i always reminisce my “prime era” nung quarantine na ang payat ko. so this 2026, i made sure to lose weight. he was aware of my plan. then i said na once i reach 50 kg, i’ll just maintain it. pero here i am, 2 months of disciplined lifestyle (not super harsh kasi i really don’t do the counting of calories), i am in my 54 kg. basically, i lost alot. it surprises me also pero my partner continuously says i’m so thin and encourages me na magpataba ako. sinasabi niya pa na “gandang ganda ako sa’yo nung ganito ka” “ngayon sobrang payat mo na, para kang may sakit.” and my problem in here is i’m not diagnosed with body dysmorphic disorder pero i really see myself na mataba pa rin compared to others kaya sabi ko i’m sure na 50kg will be my last goal. but trust me, i really gained my confidence nung pumayat ako. CONFIDENT AKO TO WEAR WHAT I WANT. na usually ko nakikita sa mga “payat” lang.

pero ‘yun nga, i just can’t help being offended, sad, disappointed, disrespected knowing how he discourages me. oa ba ako? am i too sensitive? should i gain weight?

Previous attempts: i tried to tell him na its so insensitive of him and ang disrespectful. walang nagbabago, he just continue and continue with this shit.

++ context pala: he is into body building right now, from super payatot din to somehow nagkakabuild na siya. i even once told him na nung siya nga payatot ‘di ko siya pinakeelamanan pero ngayon grabe pagsasalita niya saakin. basically i think he finds it MORE sexy if chubby ‘yung partner niya. what to do?