Who Progressed Your Relationship?

trying to see something here. Men who are in relationships or married, if you reflect back on who was the primary “driver” for the next big step in the relationship, was it you or your gf/wife?

next big step includes commitment, exclusivity, labels, marriage, children.

maybe you were the one to ultimate pop the question or take the reigns, but whose idea was it really? Who was the driver or motivator for it?