AITAH for defending someone celebrating a small win instead of focusing on global suffering?

So 1 (F) came across a video of a woman who was really happy because she found a dress for her party. It was honestly just a wholesome post about her being excited, and she was thanking God in her post, and overall, I thought it was pretty cute!

But the comments... were something else. I was reading through all these people putting these misfortunes, whether they be their own or perhaps larger, more societal issues, and just totally ragging on this woman because she thanked god in her post and "She thinks God would rather help her shop than help homeless people", "My kid has cancer, but god helped you fin your dress," etc. Reading these, I, like any normal person, felt awful for these people (especially for the people with sick kids and family, thats just so horrible, I can't even imagine), but was rather confused on why the creator was being trashed on so hard for these things. This is what I commented, and the succession of comments that followed:

Me: This is literally exactly the comment section of that bean soup recipe video. Holy what-about-me-ism, like yes, there are struggling people in this world and everyone should take the time to be educated about that but can we not insert that hurt in places where people are sharing their happiness with others? Not taking the time to appreciate positivity and light will make the world all that much more dark, so yes, while you should know about the sad reality of this world, also know the darker the darkness, the brighter a small ray seems, so take time out to appreciate it and celebrate the small things, and be happy for people like this sweet woman just being happy for something as simple as a sale on a cute dress!

Other person 1: Are you intentionally choosing to ignore the point people are trying to make or are you just plain stupid?

You want to talk about what about me-ism but if anything implying that God would much rather pick out a pretty dress for a random person than protect children from missiles, cancer, predators, etc, is much more egotistical and self centered than what any of the other people commenting had said. Exactly like you said, appreciate the small things and be happy for the simple moments, but adding that extra layer of religious superiority is just ridiculous.

You can't expect for that to insinuate anything other than some kind of godly favoritism.

Other person 2: I think you're both circling the same issue but landing on different conclusions. This woman wasn't defending the 'God picked a dress for me' line they were defending the right to share small joys without someone immediately pivoting to global tragedy as a gotcha. The original post was just excitement about a dress sale, not a theological claim about missile protection.

You're right that saying 'God gave me this deal' can sound tone-deaf when suffering exists. But the larger point stands: not every happy post needs to carry the weight of the world's pain. People can celebrate a $65 dress and care about Gaza, cancer, and children. Those aren't mutually exclusive.

So if you want to critique the religious framing, say that directly don't accuse someone of 'what-about-me-ism' for simply asking for a little room to be joyful. Both of you want empathy, just aimed at different targets.

Other person 1: , "You're quite literally missing the whole point of what I said. I said yes, everyone should celebrate the small things in life and appreciate the little moments with others, but that can be done without bringing religion into things. Again, and mind you, you agreed, implying that an all powerful deity would rather give an already privileged person the 'perfect dress' over giving starving children in Gaza nutritious food and protection, is incredibly tone deaf and just plain disrespectful. Nobody said it was a theological claim, the caption simply insinuates that God chose to help HER in specific (for a DRESS) over literally any other shitty thing happening in the world right now.

But the larger point stands: not every happy post needs to carry the weight of an all powerful deity that is supposedly good but doesn't intervene during genocides, rapes, child abduction, and more, because why is it that whenever something good happens, instead of just appreciating it they have to accredit something that should be protecting

'his children' or wtv but doesn't, and whenever something bad happens it's "God works in mysterious ways" or "it's the devil". You wanna talk abt empathy but don't you think it's a little apathetic of a God that supposedly loves each and every one of us to choose picking out the perfect wedding outfit for someone over making sure everybody has access to food, water, shelter and safety? You want to talk abt empathy but you do realize that making these implications js gives people a complex of 'am I not worth being saved' from a bad situation or 'am I doing something wrong' because they don't seem to get any message, relief, or support from the god that's busy picking people's outfits and whatnot. But even ignoring all of that, I simply think that people should just not, or at least not publicly accredit a God for a very non religious happy moment because you will never truly be able to live in the moment or really appreciate it if it's on the condition of whether a deity who never shows himself wants to give you a happy moment or not."

Me: Also, (and I'm assuming she's of standard monotheistic faith) omnipotent gods will give everyone a type of struggle, whether that struggle be an extremely awful one such as the atrocities going on in Palestine, or struggles with school and even doing homework on time. You can of course know that objectively, one of these is worse than the other, but there's so many layers, like in most monotheistic religions, the harshness of this world isn't just random punishments. They can be a way to raise someone's status, a way to purify sins, and a way to bring someone closer to God. By the way, an

"all powerful deity" has nothing they might rather over anything else, but they would test every person on this earth to see who wishes closeness to themselves. Closeness with an all powerful deity like God would entail going to heaven, and furthering oneself from God would entail going to hell, but either way, it is a choice all humanity is given, despite all their struggles, to choose closeness or furthering a relationship with God because humanity had been given that gift by God. Because of that reasoning, if someone is granted respite from their struggles by being given a gift by God, it is okay for them to celebrate, even if God's other subjects have not been given the same respite. The point of all this is to say everyone's journey, according to standard monotheism, is their own. Everyone's relationship in the God they believe in is their own. And just because people reach different parts of that journey, of happiness and difficulties, doesn't give people living a different part of that journey the right to criticize them. Basically, focus on yourself, and persevere, and everyone will reach that point of happiness and rest from struggles at their own pace. Still me: At the same time, I am incline to agree with you that this may come off as insulting and insensitive when not thought through properly, and I am only able to form this opinion through years of religious and philosophical studies, something that not every average person who sees this will know. I don't think any ill will was intended by this creator, however, so I feel it is objectively wrong to treat them like they are one because of a (very valid) assumption made of them by your previous experiences. All in all, I respect your position, but I hope this blurb makes some sense?

Yeah, to be clear, I just really am so interested in this phenomenon, and would like to know if I'm right, or if I sound incredibly tone deaf, so am I the asshole?