Does anyone else have a partner who just doesn’t care about the things you genuinely enjoy?

I really love travelling. I’m not excessive about it, once a year or every two years would make me happy. My boyfriend, though, has zero interest. He says he “hates flying out the country,” not because he’s scared of planes, but because he can’t be bothered.

We’ve been together four years and have only travelled abroad once, and I had to beg for that trip. This year we planned Dubai, and even that took a lot of convincing and reassurance from me (including offering to cover most of the cost). Then because of the war he wasn’t sure, I wanted to postpone but he ultimately cancelled it.

I suggested alternative countries for this year — he said no to all of them. I then suggested moving the Dubai trip to early 2027. But we also talked about doing a separate trip for our 5 year anniversary later in 2027 (November), so there would be months between the two holidays. I thought that would make it less stressful for him. But he still said no because he’s “not doing two holidays in a year.”

When I asked what we could do to make up for the missed trip this year, he told me to “go with someone else and choose one.” When I said it feels like he never wanted to go in the first place, he got angry, started insulting me, and now we’ve been arguing ever since. He says I’m immature for being upset and that because he travelled once, three years ago, I shouldn’t expect anything more.

I tried explaining that travelling is something I’m genuinely passionate about, and that I feel like I have to beg him to do anything that isn’t gaming, gym, TV, or eating out. Even when I offered to cover most of the cost, he still refused.

He keeps downplaying it, saying things like, “Are you really going to lose our relationship over a holiday?” But to me, it feels like more than a holiday. It feels like he doesn’t care about something that matters to me, and that I’m always dragging him into things instead of him wanting to share experiences with me.

I’m torn because everything else in our relationship is good, but this is starting to build resentment. My friends’ partners are excited to travel with them, and mine couldn’t care less.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? How do you navigate a relationship where your partner has zero interest in something that’s genuinely important to you?

TL;DR: I love travelling and want at least one trip a year, but my boyfriend refuses to travel, shuts down every suggestion.