How to effectively respond emotionally to women?

Being a male, all I've done and seen my friends do is, if we are having a bad time, we simply either solve it, if it's hard we ask for advice or help, if we can't solve it then we simply bear it alone and don't tell anyone about it.

But I have seen each and every woman in my life (includes all the gfs I have had till now, my mom, sis or aunts) not following this pattern.

They would layout everything about the problem or bad times, and then want me to somehow calm them down.

I simply asses the situation and give them solutions, many times implement the solution on their behalf, if the situation is hopeless then I call it out as you have to deal with it. But this has done me the worst... kills attraction and my credibility as a comforting man.

I mean what am I supposed to do... Talk not about the solution?.

Please enlighten me how to handle their agony and better communicate. I am much suffering to be blank and unaware on How to calm them other than simply telling the solution