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How to convince my wife to stop drinking.

My wife drinks a LOT, she goes through a box (34 glasses) of wine in about 3 days.

I've tried to casually bring up AA, rehab, therapy, medicinal detox, pretty much everything I can think of. Never in a demeaning or condescending way, just kind of a gentle approach.

Nothing has really clicked in her to stop drinking, apart from 2 pregnancies. Even though doctors, high blood pressure, menopause, and other medical reasons she should stop.

Nothing has really convinced her that she needs to stop.

Even today, Easter, we have our kids come to visit for the day, she slept until 10am, spent the day hungover, and started drinking again by 5pm, and completely avoiding anything with us throughout the day.

I'm kind of at my wits end, almost every night she drinks until she passes out on the sofa.

Before the typical reddit, "just get divorced" or whatever else that wouldn't actually help her, I just want to say, that's not happening, I just want a way to convince her to get help.

Posted Apr 6, 2026, 1:13 AM UTC

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