How do you learn to love and be kind to yourself?

I feel like I’m in a difficult position. I am very proud of who I am, and I am very happy with where I am at in life. If others were to ask me “do you love yourself” I would honestly say “yes.” When I’m alone, however, I notice that I hardly give myself any grace. I have lots of negative self-talk, and I am frequently critical of my actions. It’s beginning to affect my schoolwork (I am a graduate student).

If anyone has any tips that they think might be helpful for me, I would really appreciate them. I am in therapy but it is not working at the pace I’d like it to.