My mom is trying to arrange a marriage for me and I don’t want it.

I feel trapped. I'm gonna apologize in advance if my grammar is poor, I am not a native speaker.

I (16 F) am being pressured by my mom to get married with this guy (18 M) this year. I’ve told her many times that I don’t want this, clearly and directly, and I gave her my reasons:

I’m still young (I’ll turn 17 this year)

I want to focus on my studies and build a career

I want to learn to love myself first

I don’t really know this guy and we barely talked

I feel scared about marriage

I’ve never even dated anyone and I don’t want to choose someone I don’t feel anything for

Our future goals don’t match (I want career and to travel, he wants to settle down right away)

She doesn’t accept any of this.

Now she’s saying that if it can’t happen here (due to the fact that in our country i cannot legally be forced into marriage, and being i'm not even 18 yet it cannot happen without legal processes and court approval.) she’ll take me to Romania and make it happen there somehow. She also talks a lot about “proving” I’m a virgin after marriage in a very uncomfortable way, which is showing off the 'virgin blood' i'll lose on my wedding right. WHICH I know isn't medically accurate, it happens mostly when we're so anxious or like tense that our walls contract against the penetration and the hymen tears painfully. which could mostly happen as rape cause I don't wanna be in any of this. This all makes me feel really uneasy and exposed, not to mention how unheard it feels to express my worries and protests so openly and being just repeated constantly I have time to think about it.

She also pressures me emotionally by saying that if I don’t go through with this, she’ll always be disappointed in me and remind me for the rest of my life how a disappointment I am..

I feel like I have no say in this even if she says I do and i'm honestly scared about how far this could go.

Has anyone been in a similar situation or knows what I can do? I really need advice.