I hate when I have to inevitably tell a new person that I’m disabled

My disabilities aren’t visible, so people don’t know until I tell them. Whenever the topic of work or schedules comes up, my stomach tightens, because I know I’m going to have to disclose it soon, and I never know how the person will act. It’s that not knowing that scares me. Some people are flat out mean, some are invasive (with differing levels of rudeness to it), some are kind but no longer want to talk to me anymore because of it (this is more in the context of dating than friendships), and others just say “oh, okay” and move on. It’s probably my least favorite part of meeting new people…